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Sucky life leads to sadness

One blogger alleges that most people are depressed for a very good reason. The thesis is that it’s normal to be sad when your life sucks. It’s strange to nod my head in agreement while I simultaneously feel a little defensive. Continue reading

April 28, 2007 Posted by | anti-depressants, anxiety, blogging, depression, health, introspection, self, self-actualization | 1 Comment

Anxiety workshop

I’m learning that the approach to anxiety must be twofold. First, you must inspect the root cause. The ultimate focus of this step is healing. Second, you must make changes in your lifestyle to deter anxiety. Both steps are equally important. Both can and should be undertaken simultaneously. Continue reading

March 10, 2007 Posted by | anti-depressants, anxiety, introspection, maslow, self, self-actualization | 2 Comments

Enjoyment vs. Fullfillment

I enjoy my job, but it does not fulfill me. Some days I have a lot of fun as I tackle issues and work with my team. Other days I am tired of bureaucracy and long, unnecessary meetings. Every day I am thankful that I don’t have to work. I am thankful that someday soon I will take a long sabbatical as I pursue family life full-time. I am sure that motherhood will be fulfilling at times in ways I have never experienced, but I’m also sure that a lot of it is unenjoyable. This begs the question: is asking for both enjoyment and fulfillment too much?

March 7, 2007 Posted by | career, introspection, motherhood, self-actualization | 1 Comment

Doctor’s orders

Last Friday I met with my totally-awesome family doctor to discuss my Zoloft prescription. Some people advise against relying on a PCP for mental health issues. I say that I am still mentally sound and able to make that decision for myself. I’ve researched my issues and talk to my doctor about my concerns. I trust him while still acknowledging that I am my best advocate. Continue reading

March 7, 2007 Posted by | anti-depressants, anxiety, self-actualization | Comments Off on Doctor’s orders

Mr. Maslow

I was an undergrad student when I was introduced to Maslow and his hierarchy of needs. I believe that the introduction took place in a Management class, and at the time I was far from appreciative; management theorists not being among my favorite philosophers. But Maslow’s name continued to pop up throughout my time at university, and today I find myself increasingly more appreciative of his work. In particular I am interested in self-actualization, the “one sovereign drive.”

Needs change as needs are met. As the more basic needs are met, the need for self-actualization increases. Maslow estimated that only about 2% of the world’s population is truly self-actualizing. By identifying self-actualizing historical figures as well as personal acquaintances, he was able to compile a list of characteristics that extend beyond the hierarchy of needs:

  • reality-centered
  • problem-centered
  • possessing a different perception of means and ends
  • enjoyment of solitude
  • deeper relationships with only a few individuals
  • autonomous
  • nonconformist
  • self-deprecating yet not insensitive sense of humor
  • acceptance of self and others
  • spontaneous, embracing simplicity (genuine)
  • sense of humility and respect
  • Gemeinschaftsgefühl – a profound sense of caring to others and a desire to improve the world
  • strong ethics
  • creative
  • more “peak experiences” than the average person

This list gives me something to strive for, yet at the same time it gently reminds me that I am who I am, and that I must be accepting of this fact if I am ever to improve. It’s a bit of a brain teaser. I look to Maslow to help me reconcile the ideal and the actual.

November 30, 2006 Posted by | maslow, self-actualization | 1 Comment