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Sucky life leads to sadness

One blogger alleges that most people are depressed for a very good reason. The thesis is that it’s normal to be sad when your life sucks. It’s strange to nod my head in agreement while I simultaneously feel a little defensive.

 The majority of people aren’t sad because there is something wrong with their brain. They are sad because their lives suck. But rather than admit that to themselves, they run to the Doctor and beg for a diagnosis that alleviates their personal responsibility in this regard. After all, if a man in a white coat tells you’re broken, you never have to worry about fixing yourself. The sad reality is that they’ll spend the rest of their lives switching medications and wondering why nothing they take works and cures their disease. Never once do they consider that the disease is their life and true healing will come once attempts are made to repair it.

If you are sad right now, I want you to consider that perhaps there is nothing wrong with you. Perhaps you are seeing things the way they ought to be seen. Maybe there is just something wrong with the world right now? Instead of popping some pills in the hopes that they will put us on a perpetual even keel, maybe instead we should figure out what is wrong with our society…and fix it.

Is my experience any different from the one addressed here? My anxiety was the result of too much stress, something I have taken steps to prevent in the future. It’s true that my life royally sucked for the year or so that I was under immense pressure. But then the pressure stopped, and I couldn’t climb out of the suckiness. And I didn’t run to the doctor… I waited over a year.  So am I somehow justified?

To answer my own question, I don’t really think my experience with mental distress is much different from the experience that others have. In retrospect, I still do not regret my ongoing use of anti-depressants. But I am really ready to discontinue their use, and this article makes me feel all the more ready. On top of that, it’s a good reminder not to let your life suck.

April 28, 2007 - Posted by Liz | anti-depressants, anxiety, blogging, depression, health, introspection, self, self-actualization | | 7 Comments

7 Comments »

  1. this is interesting because I wrote a blog post not too long ago titled “20 Reasons Why You Suck” and it kind of mad fun of people who would have a sucky life. I wanted it to be used as motivation for them not to suck, but after writing it I noticed that it was just mean. You can check it out at http://www.jivefood.com/blog1/2007/04/17/20-reasons-why-you-suck/

    Comment by rey | May 11, 2007 | Reply

  2. Life sucks for many people in American…and the only reason yours does not, and why you so blithely assume anyone can rise above their “suckiness” is because you apparantly are rather affluent…that is, upper middle class. You are confusing the expensive amenities that make life worth living, with the belief that everyone is born with them!

    Your life sucks if you are homeless, injured or sick w/o health insurance, unemployed, etc. And in many or even most cases, it is highly unlikely you will be able to better your life…no matter how decent a person you care, and how much you sincerely try.

    Just because a rare person whose life sucks manages somehow to rise above it…and even gets a book published to show everyone else how she did it…does not mean anyone, or even more than a few, can accomplish the same.

    It’s your old “Horatio Alger” syndrome: if you are not rich, you deserve be punished. If you did not become rich through perserverance, you must be a bad person.

    Your attitude simply perpetuates this ugly myth. In essence, it blames the Jews for their own misfortune of winding up in concentration camps.

    Comment by Zeke Krahlin | February 3, 2010 | Reply

    • Take a chill pill, dude. No need to blow everything out of proportion.

      Comment by Liz | February 3, 2010 | Reply

  3. A chill pill? Right, the answer to all our problems is to pop pills. You proved my point perfectly. You trivialize very real and serious matters that is the lot of most of this tragic world. You are not only spoiled; you are pig ignorant…and arrogant.

    Comment by Zeke Krahlin | February 4, 2010 | Reply

    • “Chill pill” is an idiom which means “calm down.” It is not a literal pill.

      Please don’t go around and pick fights with people. It’s not the way to get your point across.

      Comment by Liz | February 4, 2010 | Reply

  4. I’m not interested in getting my point across, to those too dense, arrogant, and selfish to really care about the immense suffering in our society that is acceptable as “normal”. Telling one to take a chill pill as a response to decrying seriously egregious offenses against the human spirit, is not only ignorant; it is cruel.

    Furthermore: I know very well that “chill pill” is not a literal pill. Your lame response makes me wonder why I even bother to elucidate upon topics so important, they trivialize anything else. What a shame that all you can say about this, is whether or not “chill pill” is literal.

    Comment by Zeke Krahlin | February 4, 2010 | Reply

    • Ok… if you are not interested in getting your point across, then feel free to leave! As for being dense and arrogant, you don’t know anything about me and you have made rather rude accusations against me.

      You’ve overstayed your welcome. Thanks and good-bye.

      Comment by Liz | February 4, 2010 | Reply


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